How do you respond to Death and Violence
When violence and death enter your life, how do you respond? That is the question yesterday’s events asked. My children attend school in Ostrava. Not only that, I have several friends who live in in Ostrava, Poruba, one of which is a doctor in the hospital. When I learned of the killing spree happening in the hospital, I grew concerned.
- Are my kids okay?
- What about my friends?
- What about the people who lost their mothers, fathers, and family?
- How can I help?
This tragedy will cause wounds, grief, and sorrow. The only way to heal from such trauma is to reach out beyond the pain into compassion. This can bring people together – help them hold, heal and nurture. Death brings many questions.
- Why me?
- How could this happen?
- What did we do to deserve this?
Death’s only answer is silence. Silence of those who died. Those closest to the tragedy will feel grief. A silent grief so powerful, words fail. The best consolation you can give will also be silence.
Filing such loss with many words, doesn’t revere or honor the heart or grief in it. There is no escaping such sorrow. Pushing it away and covering it with meaningless babble creates greater loss and deeper grief.
Greet death with silence. Not the silence of no answers, but one that’s open. When you welcome, hold and cherish those who cry. Create this open, caring space that says.
“It’s okay. I am here. You can be whoever you need to be. I accept you.”
You do it without words – in silence. This silence moves with awareness and grace. It is able to touch, heal, and grow.
When you have a moment today, please be silent. Not just to honor those who died yesterday, but also for yourself and your own death, for me and mine. Doing this will help you discover that holy space that can hold such grief.
Thank you for reading.